A wedding is an amazing event that draws people together for one of the most momentous occasions that will occur in a person’s life. It is truly something special.
To make it such a special occasion there is a great deal that goes into it that makes it all come together in such a way that the bride and groom will have a happy memory to think about for the rest of their lives. This means that everything from the location where the event will occur to the way that the bride’s hair is styled all have to be perfectly choreographed to make it the special event that the bride and groom are hoping for. It can be a lot of work to make something so magnificent.
A Key Decision Area that Has to Be Made
One of the key decisions that goes into a wedding is who will be the master of ceremonies for the event. Many weddings do not necessarily choose a specific person to fill this role opting, instead, to have the DJ act in this de facto role. This person is already talking a lot anyway, so just turning this role over to him or her just seems natural.
However, there are many who opt to actually choosing a specific person to be the master of ceremony. This is an important role because this person is responsible for many aspects of the wedding reception.
One of the biggest of these is the speech that is given. This speech can be a key for the reception because it will set the tone for what the rest of the reception will be like. The master of ceremonies wants to keep the reception light and joyous, so jokes and small jabs can set the perfect tone.
However, if they are overdone, they can make for a very uncomfortable situation that can really ruin the mood of the wedding. This is why the person chosen has to be done with care, and the person filling this role has to be someone who truly understands humor.
Knowing Your Audience Is the Key
If you are the master of ceremonies for a wedding you need to be aware of one very important rule. Comedy is much like anything else – not everyone finds the same things to be funny. This means that you have to know who you are appealing to when you are making cute little jokes.
Hopefully, the reason that you were chosen for this role is that you know the couple well, but that is not always the case. If you do not know them then you can do one of two things. You can either try to figure out as much as you can before writing your speech, or keep it more generic, choosing jokes and barbs that are commonly used. While this may be more impersonal, it may also be safer.
If you know the couple well, then be cautious as well. Many people who are in this role think that virtually anything would be permissible to discuss and joke about during the reception. While those jokes may be funny when you are out to dinner with them, the bride and groom’s parents may not see the humor in them, especially if the jokes are a lot more risqué. If you think that joke may be offensive, that should you be your censor to not use it.
Consider that you want to be funny without ruining the mood of the reception. You are not there to be Chris Rock, so be careful about the kinds of jabs that you use in your speech.
So What Are Good Areas to Talk About?
Start with a joke. This is always a great ice breaker no matter whether you are delivering the graduation commencement or are speaking at the Oscars. A joke always helps to get people into the right mood, but you need to be careful to not do something that will cause issues.
One of the best ideas for a joke is to choose something that someone else has said about weddings and marriage that is funny. Here are some great examples that you can use as an opening.
“Keep your eyes wide open before the wedding, half-shut aftewards.”Benjamin Franklin
Marriages are made in heaven. Then again, so are thunder, lightning, tornadoes and hail.
These famous quotes are a great way to start your speech. You can say something like, “Socrates once said…” and then finish the quote.
Another great way to start a speech is to begin by talking about the responsibility that you have felt for filling this role. You can make this funny as well, for example, you can say something like:
“When I was chosen to be the master of ceremonies my wife said that this was a terrible role for me because I never listen to her…or something like that. I don’t remember how she put it.”
Keep in mind that that opening joke is quite important so make sure that it is a winner. If not you can have real issues.
Keep this in mind as well. If you are not a funny person, don’t try to be something you are not. Do not try to make jokes when you don’t have that in you. Just be yourself and deliver the speech the way you see fit.
Beyond the joke, your speech should have three other elements to it. The first of this is to talk about the couple and how well they fit together. No one wants to hear a speech about what a big mistake is being made, so really get into the spirit and talk the couple up.
Secondly, share the journey of the two. Talk about how they got together and how this journey has led them to one another. This will also really set the mood.
Lastly, talk about marriage in general and how you hope great things for their marriage. This will really add to the spirit of the ceremony and will make for a much better reception. You simply cannot go wrong by doing it this way.
Most of all, try to have some fun. Practice your speech with some others and see how they like it. If you get good feedback, then you can have some confidence in your speech. Again, have fun; it’s a wedding after all.